Helping Children Understand Loss: Supporting Young Minds Through Grief
Grief is a natural part of life, but for children, it can be especially confusing and overwhelming. Whether it’s the loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling, friend or even a beloved pet, childhood bereavement can leave a lasting emotional impact.
At Hughes Funeral Directors, we’ve supported many families through the heartbreak of loss, and we understand just how deeply children can be affected.
How Children Experience Grief
Grief in children may not always look the same as it does in adults. Some children may express their emotions openly through tears or questions, while others may withdraw, act out, or appear unaffected. This variation is completely normal and often reflects their age, personality, and understanding of death.
Many younger children, for instance, may not yet grasp the permanence of death and might ask repeatedly when their loved one is “coming back.” Others may experience grief in unpredictable waves—feeling okay one moment, and overwhelmed the next.
“Children process grief in waves,” says Kim Hughes, qualified funeral director and parent. “It’s important to remember that there’s no right or wrong way to grieve—especially for young people.”
Ways to Support a Grieving Child
Creating a safe, supportive environment is crucial. Let children know that it’s okay to feel sad, confused or even angry. Encouraging them to talk about their feelings, ask questions, or share memories can help them feel less isolated.
Some useful ways to support grieving children include:
Talking openly about the person who has died, using clear and age-appropriate language.
Creating memory boxes or encouraging journaling and drawing to express emotions.
Maintaining routines to offer comfort and a sense of normality.
Reassuring them that their emotions are valid and they’re not alone.
Avoid using euphemisms like “gone to sleep” or “passed away,” which can lead to fear or confusion. Being honest while remaining gentle helps build trust and understanding.
“We always encourage families to involve children in their own way,” says Craig Hughes. “Whether it’s choosing a song, lighting a candle or simply attending the service, being included can help them process what’s happening.”
When to Seek Additional Support
While many children work through grief with the support of family, others may benefit from additional help. Professional bereavement counsellors, child therapists, or grief support groups can offer tailored emotional support.
Remember: grief doesn’t follow a strict timetable. It may resurface weeks, months or even years later, especially around milestones like birthdays, holidays or anniversaries.
“What matters most is having people around who listen, understand, and walk with them through it,” adds Kim.
We’re Here to Help
At Hughes Funeral Directors, we believe our support should extend beyond the funeral itself. We recognise that children grieve too—and we’re here to help families navigate these challenging moments with care, compassion and practical guidance.
If you have any questions or concerns about helping a child through grief, Craig and Kim are always available to offer personal support and advice.